If I can help one fainting robin unto his nest again
I shall not live in vain
I shall not live in vain
It's a lot to hear, not only because her emotions are spilling over in the bond but because it's clear how distressed she is. There's little he can do but wait, and try to respond to things in turn. There's a fine line between honesty, and reading someone's emotional state to determine if in that moment they can actually handle the truth they're asking for. But it's wisdom that comes with time. And given how under-socialized Sohalia was for her age, and her age alone, Harper is not surprised that this is a hard-learned lesson for her.
He's proud of her for coming to the realization about polyamory on her own, and he lets it flow quietly down the bond, not usurping her own emotions. Exactly. Polyamory can develop in multiple ways - sometimes, only one person is dating two people, such as you dating Jude and Koa. In those cases, with open understanding for all parties, it would be okay for you to have what's called a primary partner - in that case, Jude. While he doesn't want to patronize her, it's clear she's on unsteady footing, and he hopes some education will help her figure things out. But if your intent was to have all three of you dating equally, then yes. You knowing you would always choose Jude is a sign that the relationship would not be fair to Koa. And she will have to do with that information what she will, because Harper has no idea the confrontation she has already had with Koa, or how Jude is feeling.
As for the rest, well. It's an almost endearingly common concern. You will make more mistakes. It's simply part of life. I still make mistakes in my romantic relationships all the time, and I'm almost twice your age. He infuses a bit of lightheartedness here, not wanting her to be stricken with anxiety over the idea that it doesn't necessarily get better. The only way to prevent it is to prioritize communication and emotional honesty. It won't always be enough - as you already experienced. But all you can do is try. All anyone can do is try. Harper included. Hurting people is inevitable, especially when we love them. All we can do is try to make amends, and never forsake our own individual growth as people, so that we might not make the same mistakes.
He's proud of her for coming to the realization about polyamory on her own, and he lets it flow quietly down the bond, not usurping her own emotions. Exactly. Polyamory can develop in multiple ways - sometimes, only one person is dating two people, such as you dating Jude and Koa. In those cases, with open understanding for all parties, it would be okay for you to have what's called a primary partner - in that case, Jude. While he doesn't want to patronize her, it's clear she's on unsteady footing, and he hopes some education will help her figure things out. But if your intent was to have all three of you dating equally, then yes. You knowing you would always choose Jude is a sign that the relationship would not be fair to Koa. And she will have to do with that information what she will, because Harper has no idea the confrontation she has already had with Koa, or how Jude is feeling.
As for the rest, well. It's an almost endearingly common concern. You will make more mistakes. It's simply part of life. I still make mistakes in my romantic relationships all the time, and I'm almost twice your age. He infuses a bit of lightheartedness here, not wanting her to be stricken with anxiety over the idea that it doesn't necessarily get better. The only way to prevent it is to prioritize communication and emotional honesty. It won't always be enough - as you already experienced. But all you can do is try. All anyone can do is try. Harper included. Hurting people is inevitable, especially when we love them. All we can do is try to make amends, and never forsake our own individual growth as people, so that we might not make the same mistakes.
